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Thinking up Finches III as I go through my code. The complete Finches is in a very real way how I think about modern human evolution. We destroy our social units, we reward irresponsible behaviour, we keep all our most counter-productive genes, we do what every person does in the face of change -- we fight it blatantly -- yet in the end our very choice of actions are instigators for change, and we cannot avoid it. I simply think we are the balance for ourselves. Because the irony of evolution is that it as constantly destructive as it is constantly productive. And well, it is as fun to destroy as it is to create.


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Mar. 18th, 2006 12:34 pm (UTC)
Would it be possible to have a copy of Finches I & II to read? I do have the first, but I cant get at it easily...


Mar. 18th, 2006 01:01 pm (UTC)
You may, indeed. Friends are always welcome to reading copies. I shall send now! :)

*sees LJ icon* *compares with getting to things easily* *compares to being from the perspective of a small rodent* *wonders if the proper response is to poke in the eye*
Mar. 18th, 2006 01:34 pm (UTC)
Thankyou! :)

*considers making "interested and hungry" icon*
Mar. 18th, 2006 03:32 pm (UTC)
Ah, no. The joys of watching your happy smiling hamsters is in fact, a very great comfort indeed. :)
Mar. 18th, 2006 02:58 pm (UTC)
Hrm, I think sometimes people cheat because they're unhappy and they're trying to back themselves into a corner to force change; then when they get in the corner, they compromise and find a way to stay together because change is so much scarier than unhappiness. I don't know anything about your brother's situation, but with you, I've seen other parents keep their kids around (and do things to make them dependent) because it makes them feel useful when their lives don't have much other meaning, sadly enough, and it also gives them an external focus to put all their problems on instead of engaging in self-examination and dealing with their own issues. In that case, it ends up being put on to the kids to make changes for themselves, but that can be terribly traumatic. (Which is where all the sense of destruction comes in, although I don't think it's necessarily real destruction, merely tearing down the walls of a prison in order to build something better: the people invested in the prison hate it, but that still doesn't necessarily make it bad.)

I don't know if any of this applies to you or your family, cause, you know, I don't really know you well; but I did want to say that although it's a partern (because I've seen it here in families I know), it's hardly universal.
Mar. 21st, 2006 03:43 pm (UTC)
Hiya there. Sorry it took so long to get back to you on this one, but it required a bit more gnawing. :)

It's an interesting view of adultery up there. I think people cheat on their partners for a whole slew of reasons, though I agree it stems from a basic insecurity, either with the relationship at hand or some aspect of the self. It's an ironic sort of thing, because if it is about insecurity within the relationship, then it's likely to destroy the present relationship, which would actually tie in with what you've said about change.

On the other hand, insecurity with the self is a bit more difficult. It's also something of a projectile weapon, though the other kind of insecurity similarly works. I think, especially in relationships where the key dynamic is one of dominance over the other partner, cheating is an extension of either loss of power with the current partner, or a fear of losing control. Alternatively, it could be a need to escape the whole sameness of familiar scenery. Could be a combination of these things.

It's an old memory. And it reappears in my writing often, probably because any other means of expressing what I feel gets stomped on really hard.
Mar. 21st, 2006 03:45 pm (UTC)
PS: I eventually deleted the second part of my post for over-sentimentality. Well, yes, because I'm a bit too young to be sentimental and goth. Sentimentality is a thing of goths. *nods*
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